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Anonymous asked: Well i have been in a realtionship with my boyfriend for nearlly three years, were enganged got a flat together everything I've ever wanted. However sometimes i can be really happy and the next moment i'm a total bitch. I don't know if im happy or not everyone keeps saying theres a whole world out there to explore and i'm unsure if this is what i want. Help??

well first off, congratulations (: 

as far as the mood swings, it’s really not that uncommon. sometimes when you’re in the same relationship for a long time, little things can bother you. there is a possibility that you’re getting bored with the relationship. that doesn’t mean you should break up by any means but try to find some new things to do as a couple. it may sound stupid but being stuck in a routine can make people bored and just overall rude. 

as far as what everyone else says, ignore them. they’re not in your relationship and their opinions honestly shouldn’t matter. who cares if there’s a “whole world” out there. if you’re happy with your boyfriend (at least for the most part) and you were able to make the decision to be engaged and buy a place together, who cares about that whole world?

if you personally are questioning your feelings, feel free to take a step back. when you’re just hanging out with friends and an attractive guy walks by, do you think about talking to the guy or making a move? or do you still want to go home to your boyfriend? that’s a question you need to ask next time your out and listen to what your heart is telling you. do you think you can do better or are you happy and in love with your boyfriend? i hope my advice helped a little but remember, only you can decide if this relationship is right for you.

love, jess (: